KAIZEN FOR LIFE

I used to be a girl who looked at every other girl and wished I was them. I wished I had their eyelashes, or their nose, their lips, their facial structure, their skin, their boobs, their hips, their long thick hair.

I grew up thinking I could never possibly be good enough and questioning why I looked the way I do.

Until I realised that actually I am beautiful and I am enough.

I no longer look at other girls and am filled with jealousy or hatred or wishful thinking and horrendous feelings about myself. I simply look at them and acknowledge their beauty in this world just as I acknowledge my own.

It takes time and it takes effort but it is possible.

The main things that helped me were when I started the gym – I gained a huge amount of confidence in every aspect including the way I looked. I knew that I was working on myself, building my body and having some control over how I looked.

I deleted all my social media for a long period of time which used to be one of the most toxic places for me to look at other girls and compare myself. I never realised the impact it had on me until I recently reflected and realised my view of looking at other girls had changed.

I also realised that as humans we each in fact go through phases of what we look like. I look much better in summer with a tan and a fresh rosy face and a few freckles and so I feel much more confident. It’s important to realise that our bodies, features and faces will all change and evolve over time and to simply appreciate how they evolve and not become attached to them.

Lastly it is also important to realise that your biggest insecurities are probably invisible to every one else. And if they aren’t, they don’t care about it anyway.